A Shifting Perspective
It’s a cliché to remark on how spending time with children helps you see the world through a child’s eyes, but this week I really felt it. With an hour to go until teatime, Olive, Ash and I were walking the dogs in a nature reserve near our house, trying to see how many brimstones we could spot. When the sun came out it was verging on balmy. No coats, great tits calling from the trees, and the sound of slow-running water as the last of yesterday’s rain slipped away downstream.
We were having such a nice time, but I was dogged by the feeling that we should get back for some reason. We couldn’t possibly drift around here for another hour; there were jobs to do and dinner to cook. But when I suggested to Olive that we head home, she said: ‘No mummy. I want to stay here forever.’ And then: ‘Let’s sit on these logs and have a chat.’ So we did. We sat and talked about our favourite animals, and then completed our fifth loop of the field in search of more butterflies. We watched the dogs drink from the stream and contemplated a tennis ball that was stuck in the bank. Olive learnt the word ‘celandine’ and looked for birds’ nests, chewing on a muddy stick like Del Boy chews on a cigar.
And although it was uncomfortable and unfamiliar, I saw the world through her eyes and realised there was no reason why we couldn’t stay longer. Dinner would still be cooked. The cacophony of adult responsibilities would still be waiting, no quieter or louder than before. We’d waited all these weeks for spring, so why not resist the urge to achieve and produce and simply soak up the world instead?
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Hi Tiffany, I’ve only discovered you today, but what you said about slowing down and seeing things through a child’s eyes really chimes with me. I’ve recently gone part-time in order to spend more time with my son and to just experience life rather than grinding through a never ending to do list. I’ve started writing about it on here. I think my pieces are a bit sillier than yours, but seem to come from the same place
https://stuarthodgson.substack.com/p/a-trip-to-the-seaside
What a lovely post, I can imagine sitting on those logs with you. Doesn't it feel like a total revelation when you realise you actually can slow down and just observe a for bit? You painted a beautiful picture of the day. Nice cuckoo flower too, I am just about to write this week's post all about them!